Everything has a reason behind it

Sometimes I sit back and think, would I have been happier if life took the left turn instead of the right...and I instantly get an answer..."No, it took the "right turn" which's why the results will be right!"

Over the period of time I’ve begun to realise that life is a mixture of chances and choices. Its destiny and also what you make of the opportunities that come your way. I also very strongly believe that whatever happens in life has a reason behind it. The people who come in your life, the people who leave, the people who stay and the people who just linger about.

People can have varied opinions on this but, mine sure is what I’m talking about. I have had so many friends in school, college,our co curricular activity classes (dancing, painting etc.) These weren’t essentially my ‘best friends', but good friends. I haven’t had best friends as such(my sister is my best friend .I vaguely remember having one in school who is lost in this world somewhere. We aren’t in touch because we got busy in our lives after I changed schools and surprisingly have never found her on the social networking sites too. Sometimes I wonder whether she would be thinking about me as much or not. May be not, she must be married with kids now.

In college my teacher was my best friend and dancing was my companion. I kept to myself the first 2 yrs of college. I was not an introvert yet, never managed to get close to any one in particular.3rd year I had a close friend and due to some misunderstanding we lost touch too. My course interested me and my books kept me busy, so I never missed not having a close friend.Plus being in a serious relationship and having an ultra possessive boy friend also kept me away from keeping in touch with most of my school friends.No regrets even here.

Today, when I look back and try and remember all the faces or names of friends who came in my life, I fail miserably. The few that I remember had contributed to my life in some way or the other. Some taught me how to live life to the fullest, some taught me how and what it is like to be in a family set up (since we grew up without our mother),some others taught me the vices ( which I gave up later) and yet others taught me how to love life and learn from it. I’m a total no regrets person. Whether it’s making some friends who back stabbed me or a boy friend who cheated on me. I have learnt from each individual and I only thank God for bringing them into my life.

People tell me “You’ll regret for leaving your job, for this’ll not lead you anywhere.” The others say, “You’ll regret for not grabbing this television series, it would’ve been a good break. You are doing a big mistake.” To all these people, I’ve always smiled and said-I have no regrets in life, never will have!I don't believe in doing something that wouldn't make me happy or something that I don't enjoy. So once again, I move on without regrets.

Each day comes with new hopes, new promises and new people.Why should one worry about the ones that didn't make it to my present. There sure is God's reason behind it.The decisions I make about work or people are driven by the force of God.So, I move ahead bravely knowing very well that God has a better plan for me.

I’m reminded of this lovely intro to the song ‘Hazaar rahein’ by Gulzar ji :

Laakh kasme di,laalach diye
Par jaane waale laute nahin
Sirf rahon pe udte huey sannaton ka gubaar chod gaye
Kab tak koi sannate thaamta rahega
Zindagi to chalti rehti hai
Sirf gile reh jaate hain
Aur wafaaon ko chooke huey sajde
Shayad koi aaye,aawaz de kahin se.

Life moves on, we can hold on to the empty spaces and remain stuck there forever or chose to move on with life. We can move on with the hope of someone new coming in our life and giving it some more new experiences, new joys , new tears and new meaning.

Remember through it all, that all these will come for a reason. It’s up to you whether you take some learning from everyone or just let their niceness pass through. No person is bad; everyone has their black, white & grey sides. They might show you the black side unwantingly ( usually) but, it’s up to you whether you chose to remember them for their white & grey one or hate them and waste energy cribbing about their black side.

Let me conclude this with a lovely saying that I live by:
“In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.”