This used to be the tag line of the bank where I worked. And today, I agree with this more than ever before.
I’ve been analysing different situations in life. For instance:
Is being too vocal about your feelings necessarily immature? To each his own we’d say. You are vocal, so you are-period! Whether somebody likes it or not, that’s who you are! And if they don’t like that characteristic of you, the mature ones would just ignore and accept you with it, the others would make a hoo haa about it! My point is, why should you need to explain yourself to people in life, whoever they might be! Life doesn’t offer any explanations to you for its twists and turns! Then why should you at every nook and corner, at every incident –have to explain yourself!??You are extra sensitive or may be you are too emotional-keep it that way! Don’t worry about what others think or say about it!
Some like to express and others don’t!!! Why is it that when a commoner voices their opinions it’s termed as “immature” whereas if some celebrity does it in interviews etc.it becomes a “statement!!!?” In a recent interview of Aamir Khan’s he said “I don’t like negativity in my life, if someone has a problem with me, why should I add to it” (sic) I couldn’t agree more! And he just put it in the apt words!
Thing with FB/BB and other networking sites is, it’s a different medium for everyone!For some it’s just a time pass, for some they work through that and for yet others it’s a parallel virtual world! Mostly people who write or work from home, teenagers(even adults)are more expressive or vocal about their feelings in general...I wouldn’t wonder why abc doesn’t update status or pix on BBor FB, simply because I know that that’s them. But, there are so many who would wonder how xyz can be updating pix n statuses all so often! Why do people expect everyone to think and feel like them! They have a right to be themselves, just as much as you have a right to be you!
There are some stingy with compliments, who’ll see your pix, secretly admire them or envy them and never comment! And then there are those, that if while surfing they like something they’ll quickly add a compliment/comment! I always do!If I like a status update or somebody’s pictures I like complimenting and commenting and have that one odd exchange of communication,which in a normal life goes missing! Being too busy to comment is just an excuse! If you had the time to surf through it you sure do have a minute more to say-"Wow or amazing or nice pic or get well soon or congrats on your good news!" If you don’t like being in touch remove each other from the lists. Why have each other and want to know about what’s happening in their lives. Don’t bestow your cruel kindness on each other! I read somewhere-“Just as your presence doesn’t add value to my life, your absence won’t either!” And I strongly second it!
You aren’t supposed to please everyone in life; actually the people who know you would not ask you they “whys”...and more often than not, these are the people who genuinely understand where you are coming from! It hurts me to see people who without understanding your stands go on an anger spree!Over a period of time I've realised it's best to ignore such people, they don’t deserve attention or time spent thinking about!
We are all different individuals and one should be happy being themselves, rather than being what others want them to be! I don’t expect others to be upfront like me, I’m comfortable being me as long as someone doesn’t rub it in my face that I “need” to change! I like the imperfect me, who speaks her heart/mind out when she’s hurt or upset ,than be a back biting bitch. (Gosh just the thought of it bring so much negativity to me internally.)Again, there could be people who are “Oh so diplomatic, that you wouldn’t know they hate u, because they’ll forever be smiling on your face and bad mouthing you behind your back! Steer away from such people and avoid negativity in your life!
Being yourself is the most cleansing feeling one can get. No fear of being caught in a soup, no heaviness on your heart of keeping things within! This might leave you with very few people to like you because not everybody likes honest, upfront and blunt people. They are termed as rude, arrogant and immature! Well so be it! Ain’t it better than being considered diplomatic, double faced, bitchy and dishonest!!! People generally like to have their pack of chamchas who just praise them in front and agree to whatever they say blindly without arguing. They don’t realise that these chamchas would be the ones ripping them behind their back. Bravo! You are just sitting with your greatest enemies having a super meal! May God bless such lot, is all I can say!
Someone thinks short skirts are sluttish, some think they are hot, and some others call it just comfortable! Some like instrumental music, few others like rock and another person might like it all at once or none at all! Some like expressing, some prefer being bottled up; some like loud weddings, some sober; some like flowers; some are allergic; some are emotional, some stone cold! Nobody expects anybody to be like themselves, the ones who do need to get a life!
Let nobody’s view points or opinions deter you from your life you are living or want to live. Do what your heart tells you to do! Feel the way you want to feel, dance like you love to dance and laugh the way you want to without bothering what the person sitting next to you might think!
“You have to live the life u were born to live.”-Sound of music
So live it the way “you” want to live!Adios till laters!!!:-)
I’ve been analysing different situations in life. For instance:
Is being too vocal about your feelings necessarily immature? To each his own we’d say. You are vocal, so you are-period! Whether somebody likes it or not, that’s who you are! And if they don’t like that characteristic of you, the mature ones would just ignore and accept you with it, the others would make a hoo haa about it! My point is, why should you need to explain yourself to people in life, whoever they might be! Life doesn’t offer any explanations to you for its twists and turns! Then why should you at every nook and corner, at every incident –have to explain yourself!??You are extra sensitive or may be you are too emotional-keep it that way! Don’t worry about what others think or say about it!
Some like to express and others don’t!!! Why is it that when a commoner voices their opinions it’s termed as “immature” whereas if some celebrity does it in interviews etc.it becomes a “statement!!!?” In a recent interview of Aamir Khan’s he said “I don’t like negativity in my life, if someone has a problem with me, why should I add to it” (sic) I couldn’t agree more! And he just put it in the apt words!
Thing with FB/BB and other networking sites is, it’s a different medium for everyone!For some it’s just a time pass, for some they work through that and for yet others it’s a parallel virtual world! Mostly people who write or work from home, teenagers(even adults)are more expressive or vocal about their feelings in general...I wouldn’t wonder why abc doesn’t update status or pix on BBor FB, simply because I know that that’s them. But, there are so many who would wonder how xyz can be updating pix n statuses all so often! Why do people expect everyone to think and feel like them! They have a right to be themselves, just as much as you have a right to be you!
There are some stingy with compliments, who’ll see your pix, secretly admire them or envy them and never comment! And then there are those, that if while surfing they like something they’ll quickly add a compliment/comment! I always do!If I like a status update or somebody’s pictures I like complimenting and commenting and have that one odd exchange of communication,which in a normal life goes missing! Being too busy to comment is just an excuse! If you had the time to surf through it you sure do have a minute more to say-"Wow or amazing or nice pic or get well soon or congrats on your good news!" If you don’t like being in touch remove each other from the lists. Why have each other and want to know about what’s happening in their lives. Don’t bestow your cruel kindness on each other! I read somewhere-“Just as your presence doesn’t add value to my life, your absence won’t either!” And I strongly second it!
You aren’t supposed to please everyone in life; actually the people who know you would not ask you they “whys”...and more often than not, these are the people who genuinely understand where you are coming from! It hurts me to see people who without understanding your stands go on an anger spree!Over a period of time I've realised it's best to ignore such people, they don’t deserve attention or time spent thinking about!
We are all different individuals and one should be happy being themselves, rather than being what others want them to be! I don’t expect others to be upfront like me, I’m comfortable being me as long as someone doesn’t rub it in my face that I “need” to change! I like the imperfect me, who speaks her heart/mind out when she’s hurt or upset ,than be a back biting bitch. (Gosh just the thought of it bring so much negativity to me internally.)Again, there could be people who are “Oh so diplomatic, that you wouldn’t know they hate u, because they’ll forever be smiling on your face and bad mouthing you behind your back! Steer away from such people and avoid negativity in your life!
Being yourself is the most cleansing feeling one can get. No fear of being caught in a soup, no heaviness on your heart of keeping things within! This might leave you with very few people to like you because not everybody likes honest, upfront and blunt people. They are termed as rude, arrogant and immature! Well so be it! Ain’t it better than being considered diplomatic, double faced, bitchy and dishonest!!! People generally like to have their pack of chamchas who just praise them in front and agree to whatever they say blindly without arguing. They don’t realise that these chamchas would be the ones ripping them behind their back. Bravo! You are just sitting with your greatest enemies having a super meal! May God bless such lot, is all I can say!
Someone thinks short skirts are sluttish, some think they are hot, and some others call it just comfortable! Some like instrumental music, few others like rock and another person might like it all at once or none at all! Some like expressing, some prefer being bottled up; some like loud weddings, some sober; some like flowers; some are allergic; some are emotional, some stone cold! Nobody expects anybody to be like themselves, the ones who do need to get a life!
Let nobody’s view points or opinions deter you from your life you are living or want to live. Do what your heart tells you to do! Feel the way you want to feel, dance like you love to dance and laugh the way you want to without bothering what the person sitting next to you might think!
“You have to live the life u were born to live.”-Sound of music
So live it the way “you” want to live!Adios till laters!!!:-)
I like what you wrote in "About me". Here is one of my favorite quotes that you will appreciate.
ReplyDeleteNothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race”.
Good one Akhil :-)) me likes...!!!
ReplyDeletehey! wHERE wHEre U. iTS BEEN LOnG sNcE uR LASt pOST. if i AM NoT WrONG ALMOST 2-3 MONThs.
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mamalik
Hi!
ReplyDeletehey! wHERE wHEre U. iTS BEEN LOnG sNcE uR LASt pOST. if i AM NoT WrONG ALMOST 2-3 MONThs.
yA U r RIgHt. iN ThE wORdS oF a PHIlOsOPHER. tHER ARE tWO tHWInGS wHicH chANGe a NATION/cOmMuNiTy/pERsON. tHAT is:
1). bE wHAT u r
2). dO nOT fEar aNYtHINF.
This z Mudassir Here.Can I add u on facebook.
BTW bbeautiful post...
@Mudassir-I appreciate ur interest in my blog and the readings,however,I earlier also stated I m pretty closed to adding people on fb,for me thts a very private plc whr i interact and share things only wth people i know...and well,what's kept me busy these 2-3 mnths r my preprtns for marriage which happens to be soon,in the coming few months!Happy reading and all the best to you:)
ReplyDeleteI wish I had a girl like u in my life.
ReplyDeleteI guess it is bit too late.
Anyways, all the best for ur marriage.
U don't know me. But I have read everything abt u. n know almost every thing abt u. i still remember surfing net for hours just to read abt u.
God bless U.