Her mind was stirring a frenzy of thoughts that cast an implacable look on her face.
Unwilling to let go her nascent stirring of thoughts, she writes about what’s been going on in her head for the past one week! Something that had been causing so much unrest that she couldn’t put it down in words. But as the feelings settle down they pour out:
Why is the word becoming so sexual? Why are people out their dying to prove their point in justifying infidelity and emotionless sex! Very well, to each his own, then why aren’t they letting me live with my own.
It’s funny how the people I’ve been meeting of late, start “supposedly” intelligent discussions and then move towards sex! They are out there to prove a point and till you won’t succumb to their view point, you would be termed rigid! Yes, I am rigid. So be it! Stop breathing down my neck. I would never agree to something I don’t believe in!
I wouldn’t agree to the theory that man marries woman, goes to France and sees a French woman , starts talking to her and realises she is the soul mate he had been searching for and then goes ahead and sleeps with her. Comes back home and sleeps with his wife with a clear conscience feeling self important! Why? Coz he’s providing for the family.
If this wife were to go to France and chance upon a French man feeling he’s her soul mate and comes back home with a clear conscience would the man feel the same? Hell no! Why? coz she’s a woman and she has no right to feel that outside of marriage!
My point here isn’t justifying or not justifying infidelity. My point is have equal stands for both the sexes. I agree one can fall “out of love.”But then when you are out of love, walk out of the relationship. It is so not fair to torture your partner day in and day out and make them feel less important and less of a soul mate than your “sleeping partner”
When a couple marries and enters “holy matrimony “lot of things change. Some sideline romance and make their relationships mundane and oh so boring! Some maintain the romance by the occasional social outings and holidays. But romance isn’t just outings and holidays, it’s the little things and much more. Still sharing those secret glances, still holding each other and surprising each other, inspite of the daily schedules. Being able to talk about any and everything under the sun and still feeling that there’s so much more to talk. Like the song of Bryan Adams goes -
I wanna know you inside out
the biggest lie you ever told - your deepest fear 'bout growin' old
the longest night you ever spent - the angriest letter you never sent
the boy you swore you'd never leave - the one you kissed on new years's eve
the sweetest dream you had last night -- your darkest hour, your hardest fight
I wanna know you - like I know myself
I'm waitin' for you - there ain't no one else
talk to me baby - scream and shout
I want to know you - inside out
I wanna dig down deep - I wanna lose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout - I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time - I wanna know your mind
ya know there ain't no doubt - I wanna know you inside out
the saddest song you ever heard - the most you said with just one word
the loneliest prayer you ever prayed - the truest vow you ever made
what makes you laugh, what makes you cry what makes you mad, what gets you by
you highest hight, your lowest low - these things I want to know
I wanna know you - like I know myself
I'm waitin' for you - there ain't no one else
talk to me baby - scream and shout
I want to know you - inside out
I wanna dig down deep - I wanna lose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout - I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time - I wanna know your mind
ya know there ain't no doubt - I wanna know you inside out
I wanna know your soul - I wanna lose control
c'mon n' let it out - I wanna know you inside out
ya gotta dig down deep - I wanna lose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout - I wanna know you inside out
tell me everything...
Oh I so wish such men do exist sumwhr and not just in songs,movies and fairytales!
Most of the times after marriage, couples fall out of love coz everything becomes a routine. How you break the routine is what’ll keep you relationship and love alive. At the end of the day even after doing all this if your partner still goes out and cheats on you then leave that jerk of a man/woman and move on. Never stick around with such a person coz if he has done it once and is forgiven there are chances he’ll try it again and expect to be forgiven. Women being emotional fools tend to forgive easily, not realising in the long run the loss is entirely theirs.’ There’s another argument here, that if a man cheats and comes back and the woman accepts him back, the relationship strengthens. But that’s a gamble one plays and from what I know 3 or max 4 out of 10 such relationships survive, not more!
There are also scenarios where if one has a beautiful marriage and a lovely family with kids etc and they happen to chance upon their “dream man” outside marriage, they tend to weigh the pros and cons. You suddenly talk to this person and hope time would just stop there and you can go on talking and never have to go back home. That feeling of being tied down in a “routine” comes over you and temptation takes over. Then think is it worth it? Is your spouse not giving you enough love, attention and care? Think about your family-kids, parents, everyone...is it worth it? Causing pain and misery on those faces. If nothing matters and you crave your freedom from routine more than anything else then walk out. I would never recommend having one in the hand, one in the bush theory!
Feeling out of love is easy sometimes but, if you try harder keeping in love ain’t that difficult either!
For all those promoting infidelity and trying to get into someone pants – Get a life!
For others telling us that if you give some fun to the director/producer, the chances that they take you in their projects are higher – Get a double life!!! The world , this industry ain’t that big a bitch. It sure has its dirty side but there is a decent side too.
I’m happy I’m meeting a healthy mix of such, coz if on one hand I meet vultures like you, there are on the others who’d like to see my work! I hope this is worth the wait and my patience pays. The success that follows will be a slap enough on the faces of such people, who are out there with their clothes off, trying to sell themselves! High time you “cover up” guys!
Unwilling to let go her nascent stirring of thoughts, she writes about what’s been going on in her head for the past one week! Something that had been causing so much unrest that she couldn’t put it down in words. But as the feelings settle down they pour out:
Why is the word becoming so sexual? Why are people out their dying to prove their point in justifying infidelity and emotionless sex! Very well, to each his own, then why aren’t they letting me live with my own.
It’s funny how the people I’ve been meeting of late, start “supposedly” intelligent discussions and then move towards sex! They are out there to prove a point and till you won’t succumb to their view point, you would be termed rigid! Yes, I am rigid. So be it! Stop breathing down my neck. I would never agree to something I don’t believe in!
I wouldn’t agree to the theory that man marries woman, goes to France and sees a French woman , starts talking to her and realises she is the soul mate he had been searching for and then goes ahead and sleeps with her. Comes back home and sleeps with his wife with a clear conscience feeling self important! Why? Coz he’s providing for the family.
If this wife were to go to France and chance upon a French man feeling he’s her soul mate and comes back home with a clear conscience would the man feel the same? Hell no! Why? coz she’s a woman and she has no right to feel that outside of marriage!
My point here isn’t justifying or not justifying infidelity. My point is have equal stands for both the sexes. I agree one can fall “out of love.”But then when you are out of love, walk out of the relationship. It is so not fair to torture your partner day in and day out and make them feel less important and less of a soul mate than your “sleeping partner”
When a couple marries and enters “holy matrimony “lot of things change. Some sideline romance and make their relationships mundane and oh so boring! Some maintain the romance by the occasional social outings and holidays. But romance isn’t just outings and holidays, it’s the little things and much more. Still sharing those secret glances, still holding each other and surprising each other, inspite of the daily schedules. Being able to talk about any and everything under the sun and still feeling that there’s so much more to talk. Like the song of Bryan Adams goes -
I wanna know you inside out
the biggest lie you ever told - your deepest fear 'bout growin' old
the longest night you ever spent - the angriest letter you never sent
the boy you swore you'd never leave - the one you kissed on new years's eve
the sweetest dream you had last night -- your darkest hour, your hardest fight
I wanna know you - like I know myself
I'm waitin' for you - there ain't no one else
talk to me baby - scream and shout
I want to know you - inside out
I wanna dig down deep - I wanna lose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout - I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time - I wanna know your mind
ya know there ain't no doubt - I wanna know you inside out
the saddest song you ever heard - the most you said with just one word
the loneliest prayer you ever prayed - the truest vow you ever made
what makes you laugh, what makes you cry what makes you mad, what gets you by
you highest hight, your lowest low - these things I want to know
I wanna know you - like I know myself
I'm waitin' for you - there ain't no one else
talk to me baby - scream and shout
I want to know you - inside out
I wanna dig down deep - I wanna lose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout - I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time - I wanna know your mind
ya know there ain't no doubt - I wanna know you inside out
I wanna know your soul - I wanna lose control
c'mon n' let it out - I wanna know you inside out
ya gotta dig down deep - I wanna lose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout - I wanna know you inside out
tell me everything...
Oh I so wish such men do exist sumwhr and not just in songs,movies and fairytales!
Most of the times after marriage, couples fall out of love coz everything becomes a routine. How you break the routine is what’ll keep you relationship and love alive. At the end of the day even after doing all this if your partner still goes out and cheats on you then leave that jerk of a man/woman and move on. Never stick around with such a person coz if he has done it once and is forgiven there are chances he’ll try it again and expect to be forgiven. Women being emotional fools tend to forgive easily, not realising in the long run the loss is entirely theirs.’ There’s another argument here, that if a man cheats and comes back and the woman accepts him back, the relationship strengthens. But that’s a gamble one plays and from what I know 3 or max 4 out of 10 such relationships survive, not more!
There are also scenarios where if one has a beautiful marriage and a lovely family with kids etc and they happen to chance upon their “dream man” outside marriage, they tend to weigh the pros and cons. You suddenly talk to this person and hope time would just stop there and you can go on talking and never have to go back home. That feeling of being tied down in a “routine” comes over you and temptation takes over. Then think is it worth it? Is your spouse not giving you enough love, attention and care? Think about your family-kids, parents, everyone...is it worth it? Causing pain and misery on those faces. If nothing matters and you crave your freedom from routine more than anything else then walk out. I would never recommend having one in the hand, one in the bush theory!
Feeling out of love is easy sometimes but, if you try harder keeping in love ain’t that difficult either!
For all those promoting infidelity and trying to get into someone pants – Get a life!
For others telling us that if you give some fun to the director/producer, the chances that they take you in their projects are higher – Get a double life!!! The world , this industry ain’t that big a bitch. It sure has its dirty side but there is a decent side too.
I’m happy I’m meeting a healthy mix of such, coz if on one hand I meet vultures like you, there are on the others who’d like to see my work! I hope this is worth the wait and my patience pays. The success that follows will be a slap enough on the faces of such people, who are out there with their clothes off, trying to sell themselves! High time you “cover up” guys!
bravo!
ReplyDeletebeautiful at places. brilliant at other. and berry berry sexy sexy kinda outburst. keep it up. you can have double income as writer and model.
:-) hehehe..thanks..i shall try that soon may b ;-)
ReplyDeleteLoved the post Anjali, and totally agree - marriage and commitment is a dance... sometimes fast and breathless, sometimes slow and sensuous, sometimes just plain boring! But keeping your partner close, sharing those daily moments of private little jokes, silliness, loving glances and just plain holding hands is what keeps the music going. Take it for granted... and that's the death of it.
ReplyDeleteI'm very happy that you're holding your head high among the vultures you just described. Its people like that who make up the statistical average of bad marriages... and they deserve it! Keep smiling that beautiful smile girl, and keep writing!!
awww...thanks Shibbu..n very well said..coming from an experienced person...;-)
ReplyDeleteIts the sweet nothings that actually add to the joy,more than the useless extravaganzas..:-)
Such men does exist, however times have changed so has everything. In the words of IQBAL:
ReplyDeleteAb na Ishq mai wo H Garmiyaan,
Ab na Husun mai H Shookhiyaan,
Ab na Gaznavi mai wo tarap rahi,
Na wo kham h Zulufi Ayaaz mai.
Such men does exist but the % has gone down, with changing times everything has changed so has men. In the words of IQBAL:
ReplyDeleteAb na Ishq mai wo H Garmiyaan,
Ab na Husun mai H Shookhiyaan,
Ab na Gaznavi mai wo tarap rahi,
Na wo kham h Zulufi Ayaaz mai.